If we want to do a good job as spiritual leaders, it's important to know what we're actually supposed to do! As obvious as that sounds, many people who are being promoted by God to accept a role of kingdom leadership in the lives of fellow believers neglect to think through what, exactly, that means. Because we are sincere in our desire to do what God wants us to do for the sake of others, we bravely launch into spiritual leadership, but most of us have a nagging suspicion that we do not know what we're doing.
We start off the job feeling inadequate to the task, and it doesn't take many days before we realize the unspoken doubt we had about ourselves is true. Subsequently, our thoughts run down a predictable path: Somebody made a mistake in asking me to be a leader … should I wait until I'm found out as a fraud, or should I quit before I do real damage in someone's life?
Add to this feeling of inadequacy the fear of failure—that we'll be blamed for our mistakes—and most sensible people want to avoid becoming spiritual leaders at all. Those who already have that designation search for reasons why their life is too [fill in the blank] to continue; or, they focus on the getting things done (running meetings, organizing events, helping people with problems, receiving more training, etc.).
All the while, they try to be as inconspicuous as possible, hoping that if they do not disturb anything or draw any attention to themselves, nobody will challenge their (non-existent) leadership credentials.
Current church culture frequently promotes a clear separation between clergy and laity—the professional spiritual leaders (pastors/staff) on one side of the divide, and all the rest of the congregation on the other. Church services have obvious demographics: one tiny group of people talks or sings in front of the other, much larger group of people.
Even those of us who pastor today feel like phonies because our years of sitting in church services that were led by real leaders (i.e., our mentors or predecessors) convinced us we are not adequate to the task.
Consequently, most people in congregations believe that there really are two categories of believers: leaders and non-leaders. Whew, many godly and wonderful believers think to themselves, I'm glad I'm not called to be a leader! And yet, Jesus reminds us that the least in the kingdom of God is (potentially) more of a spiritual powerhouse than the prophets of old (Matthew 11:11).
The Bible truth is simple and unequivocal on the subject: though we do have different roles within the whole Body, each and every believer is intended by God to disciple and lead others into kingdom life. If we define a spiritual leader as someone with a Hollywood personality and a commanding stage presence, then I will concede that we are not all leaders.
But if spiritual leadership is more akin to being a parent than a performer, I rest my case in saying that every believer is capable of becoming an excellent spiritual leader—just as sincere people can become great parents. They will be better parents if they have good role models and/or biblical training. But there are few people, indeed, who cannot parent well.
The idea that leaders are somehow intrinsically different from normal believers can even fool pastors who try to live up to grand expectations that their congregations put on them—or that they have for themselves. Those same leaders tend to perpetuate the myth of super-saint-leaders, so they search within their congregations to identify people with the potential as spiritual leaders. After searching for super-shepherds among their mere-sheep, those misinformed pastors grow discouraged because they cannot find many leaders in their congregation.