We—and others who are working in the area of reconciling troubled marriages—hear this question from pastors and couples quite frequently. We have seen God turn the whole tide of a marriage around with the willing heart of only one spouse—the perseverance of one spouse to hold firmly to the rope of reconciliation that God extends through his son Jesus Christ. Time and time again in his ministry, Jesus focused on working with what was placed before him.

Take, for example, the story we commonly refer to as "the feeding of the 5,000." Unlike his disciples, Jesus focused on using what God had given them, not what appeared to be an impossible circumstance. "'How many loaves do you have?' Jesus asked" (Mark 8:5). He took the five loaves and two fish and, through the power of prayer, met the need against all odds.

Reconciliation is possible, even with an unwilling spouse. Many available resources are specifically designed with this seemingly impossible situation in mind. Joe ...