Social trends have made adoption impossible for many childless couples.

Children are a gift from god, a reward from him, say the Scriptures. But for the nearly two million involuntarily infertile couples in the U.S., children are a gift bestowed on others and inexplicably denied to them.

“Month after month you hope,” said Christina Bynum, a pastor’s wife from rural southern Maryland. “And month after month, you’re disappointed.” Christina and her husband, Pierre, learned early in their marriage that their physiological chances of having children were remote. The news delivered a devastating blow, and the meetings they attended with other infertile couples offered little salve for their wounds.

“There was such an anxiety and desperation and helpless feeling among those couples,” Christina recalled. Equally discouraging were the prospects for adoption. “In 1975, the possibility of adoption was so slim and the waiting lists were years and years,” she continued. “For foreign adoptions, the red tape was incredible and the costs tremendous.”

So the Bynums dropped out of the meetings for infertile couples and put all thoughts of adoption, at least temporarily, on the shelf. “We wanted children very, very badly. But we decided we needed to lift the whole area up to God so we could have a degree of peace in our lives,” Christina said.

In the years that followed, the Bynums created a family of sorts by taking dozens of troubled teenagers into their home. Later they became actively involved in the prolife movement, lobbying their representatives in Washington to take steps to stop abortion.

And persistently, they “reminded the Lord” of their desire for children.

“The hardest part was hearing someone say things like, ‘Oh, we didn’t want to ...

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