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THE TOP-10 “LAST WORDS IN YOUR CHURCH”

Pastoral lines you may not be around long enough to regret.

Sometimes words have to be eaten. Other times, they turn out to have teeth that bite. From an unscientific sampling of a few contributing editors, LEADERSHIP offers here the most frequent phrases in ministry that become preludes to a fast farewell.

10. I think I’ve earned the right to say this.

9. Thank you for the unanimous vote of confidence.

8. We’ll incorporate a seeker sensitive approach into our present worship service.

7. In ancient Israel, the people danced before the Lord.

6. Recently, I’ve been reading about the importance of publicly confessing your own sins, so today …

5. I’ll show the church secretary who’s boss around here!

4. I’m sure I can trust you to keep this confidential.

3. Then there are no hard feelings, right?

2. I’m sure Mrs. Jones will agree that she’s been our organist long enough.

1. They need to realize this kitchen belongs to everyone.

Copyright © 1993 by the author or Christianity Today/Leadership Journal. Click here for reprint information on Leadership Journal.

Posted January 1, 1993

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