In a 2014 interview, the actor Bill Murray was asked about his then current eligible bachelor status. (Murray went through a painful divorce in 2009.) Murray said it would be nice to have a female companion for special events, but he also admitted that he needs to work on himself first. Murray said, "There's a lot that I am not doing that I need to do."
When asked what, specifically, he felt was missing from his life, Murray replied:
Just something like working on yourself or self-development or something … I don't have a problem connecting with people. My [issue] is connecting with myself. If I am not really committing myself to that, then it's better that I don't have a different person [in my life].
Then Murray reflected on what stops us from looking into our own issues: "What stops [any of] us," he said, "is we're kind of really ugly if we look really hard. We're not who we think we are. We're not as wonderful as we think we are. It's a little bit of a shock … it's hard."
