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Before You Open Up

In “People Skills,” Dr. Robert Bolton writes, “Self-disclosure is best when it is:

to the right person—often one who is capable of empathic understanding;

to the right degree—you may decide to disclose all or part of your experience;

for the right reasons—be sure your goal is to disclose yourself rather than to burden the other or “show off”;

at the right time—in hours that are appropriate and when the other is not heavily burdened with his own needs; and

in the right place—in a location conducive to this kind of environment.”

Reprinted from “People Skills: How to Assert Yourself, Listen to Others, and Resolve Conflicts” by Robert Bolton (Simon & Schuster, 1979).

1996 Christianity Today/LEADERSHIP Journal

Posted April 1, 1996

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