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An Unexpected Choice: Why We Traded the Public School for Homeschooling

An Unexpected Choice: Why We Traded the Public School for Homeschooling

The countercultural decision has redefined our family's notion of success.

When I was 6 and my dad had been hired by the U.S. government to work as an economist, one of the first things he and my mom did after we moved was to call the few fellow Korean immigrants they knew in the D.C. area.

"Where are the good schools?" they interrogated. When they ran out of people to call, they called their friends' friends and asked the same question.

It took no time to build a list of acceptable school districts, a list that concurrently created the boundaries for where we would consider living. If a city was not on that list, it did not matter how affordable the housing was, how much more my parents could get for their meager dollars—a good school was the only choice that mattered.

Not surprisingly, when my husband and I reached the same point for our family, needing to find somewhere to settle down and raise our three young boys, the school issue became the first factor we considered as well. Of course we were going to live somewhere with a good school district. Naperville, a southwestern suburb of Chicago, had the right school credentials and a critical mass of our fellow church members who lived there. It was an easy choice.

We moved to Naperville for the public schools, but we ended up becoming a homeschooling family.

One day, I was interviewing a fellow Naperville mom for a project, and almost as a side note she mentioned that she had homeschooled her kids. I asked her what her main reasons were for homeschooling, and what she said stuck in my mind: "I wanted them to be able to enjoy their childhood. It goes by so fast."

My eldest son was then in the Naperville schools as a first-grader, and we were experiencing the opposite of "enjoying childhood." By the time he came home, ate a snack, did his homework, and practiced piano, it was nearly dinnertime. Every day felt like a grind, every day felt like we were in some sort of elementary-aged pressure cooker.

Also, we'd experienced red flags in his public school education experience, flags that I had just ignored or downplayed, but now they kept reemerging, clamoring for attention. Our son's grip on basic addition and subtraction facts was shaky. The teacher-approved first-grade readers he brought home were all picture books well below his level. A classmate was being manipulative in his relationship with our son: "You better jump from the top of that pole or else I'll stop being your friend!"

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Mark Easteadt

April 12, 2012  9:31am

We also homeschool and made our decision based on academics. We could tell early on that my oldest was a bit different from his peers. He was reading at a very early age and could talk clearly and eloquently very early as well. After several years in the public school of little to no help for him and his situation, we decided to homeschool. Like others here, my wife had been a public school teacher and always looked down on the idea of homeschooling. But seeing few good alternatives and after doing research we tried it. It has been wonderful for both my wife and the kids. The academic program far exceeds what their peers are getting and they are involved socially in many ways. We are still working out the "missional" side of things, but that has little to do with school setting for us. I also agree that homeschooling is not for everyone and that it needs to be done carefully and prayerfully. Also, like Helen we are open to the idea of changing if it seems best.

Nate Clarke

April 11, 2012  11:14pm

As one of the moderators of the page, it's easy to pipe up when things lack civility. I just want to say that we really appreciate the thoughtful and helpful dialogue in the comments. Great stuff - keep it up.

Derek C

April 11, 2012  3:38pm

@Dianne, by way of observation, the documentary, Bully, draws its material from public schools. If this is what passes for what you think works, then your assumption should find homeschoolers much worse off. I don't think you'll find that to be the case. Have you ever encountered public schooled kids who have limited social skills? Do you attribute that to their setting, peers and/or parenting? You've raised a good and fair question. I would just suggest that you broaden your view of cause and effect. I've found "good" and "bad" kids in both settings (public + home schooling).

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