5 questions to determine whether the hurting are ready for responsibility.
| posted 2/16/2005
A man who joined our fellowship came out of the Jehovah's Witnesses. Three months after his conversion, his daughter died. Then the woman he had been dating broke off their relationship.
If that weren't enough, his business collapsed; it's now half of what it used to be.
Today, this man comes to three weekend services. He can't seem to get enough of God. He's not ready for significant leadership right now. But he's on the way toward the healing that could one day make him a powerful servant leader.
When will that be?
I don't know for sure. The goal is not to get him well enough so he can get on with the real business of the church. He is the real business of the church. But as his brokenness heals, his potential for leadership rises.
Knowing when a broken person is ready to lead can be difficult to determine. Here are five tests I use to measure whether someone is ready.
1. Are they honest with themselves?
Recently, a former Navy pilot stood in a meeting and said that his charter-flying business had gone bust. He lost everything-his planes, his income, his dream.
He told us how he had struggled with bitterness and disillusionment until someone at church made an offhand comment: "The reason God can't do anything miraculous in your life is because you want to control everything."
That bracing remark caused him to search his soul. He admitted to the Lord, "This whole thing has been about me and my goals for my life." He asked for God's forgiveness.
This story shows the pilot's true spirit. I can work with broken people who recognize they're broken. People who can't admit their sin, though, make me nervous. This pilot is now on a trajectory toward becoming a cell group leader.
2. Are they in community?
Several years ago a dynamic man, who possessed a number of spiritual gifts, started attending the church. He had an uncanny insight into what God was doing in a person's life (what some call "a word of wisdom").
As he moved into more visible leadership, I told him, "If you're going to help people, you've got to be in relationship with them. Otherwise, you'll never convince them you're just an ordinary guy working for an extraordinary God."
Over time, I sensed he was balking. I recommended he offer training in discerning God's will from the Scriptures to several cell groups. I said, "Why don't you go out to dinner with the leaders of these cell groups? You need to establish friendships."
His face reddened. "Look, I'm 51 years old," he said. "What I want to do is ministry. I don't have time to waste on anything as frivolous as building relationships."
"Then you won't minister at this church," I replied.
He had failed a critical test of leadership. Community is essential to biblical leadership. If a person can't build deep friendships that include accountability, that person is not ready to lead in the church.
3. Will they labor in obscurity?
Katherine has the poise and stage presence of Snow White and was on our worship team. While never flashy in her song leading, people began to stumble over her seeming flawlessness. My concern was people were beginning to think of her more as an image than as a real person.