Should Christians Sue?
In 1 Corinthians 6:1-8, Paul reprimands church members who have filed lawsuits against each other. Their pettiness, suggests the apostle, lacks eternal foresight and discredits the testimony of the church. In Matthew 18:15-20, Jesus offers principles for how two believers are to resolve a conflict. And earlier on, Jesus advised his followers about how to carry themselves if they are the object of a suit: "If someone wants to sue you and take your tunic, let him have your cloak as well" (Matt. 5:40, NIV). What does this mean for us in today's ultra-litigious society?
As Christ's followers, we are called to live in unity. God wants us to be at peace with one another (Rom. 12:18). A suing Christian is usually enticed to take on the adversarial spirit manifested in the legal system. The predacious nature of our culture, the retention of attorneys, and the courtroom arena combine to form an atmosphere not conducive to reconciling relationships. A Christian who sues can become "caught up" in the system to the extent that he takes on a bitter, self-righteous, and disingenuous mindset.
This, in turn, can lead him to overlook the blessing hidden in conflict, an opportunity to demonstrate godly character in the face of adversity. It also minimizes God's concern about the "weightier matters of the law"—justice, mercy, and faithfulness (Matt. 23:23).
Even though he may be legally "right" to do so, a Christian who pursues a legal remedy outside the circle of other believers (especially when the church has authority over the matter) can end up cheating his brother by depriving him of the opportunity to receive godly counsel to deal properly with both the dispute at hand and things of an eternal nature. The secular legal system simply lacks the wherewithal and the desire to deal with these "weightier matters."
The good news is that the body of Christ has many competent, wise persons who are gifted in peacemaking and conflict resolution. These members, under the guidance of the Holy Spirit, can help people reconcile their relationships with each other as well as resolve their legal disputes.
What's more, the American judicial system often allows disputing parties—even after the filing of a suit—to resolve their conflicts in a private, nonadversarial forum (e.g., through mediation or arbitration with the assistance of a trained facilitator, many of whom are committed Christians). After resolving the matter, the parties may petition the court to incorporate the mediated agreement or the arbiter's decision into a court order.
This process can provide Christians with something that is sorely lacking in our nation's courtrooms: a protected setting where God's voice can be heard, where parties can communicate with each other and disclose their errors without fear of scorn, where forgiveness can be requested and extended, where true restoration can be fostered, and where the legal details can be handled properly. I have witnessed this process work successfully in a variety of cases, from church-related feuds to contract disputes and employment discrimination.
Which brings us back to the question. The stated cautions and principles generally are true for Christian/non-Christian relations as well. We are called to show charity to our neighbor, whether he is a believer or not. Even if the non-Christian resists our conciliatory gestures, we still control our own actions.