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What to Do about Unbiblical Unions

African churches seek a better response to polygamy than in years past as western churches address new same-sex marriages.

Jacob Zuma's recent election as South Africa's fourth president since the end of apartheid was a foregone conclusion. The question that captivated observers has been which of the Zulu traditionalist's several wives would be first lady: The media-shy senior wife? Or the middle wife who responds to reporters' questions with "Jesus is Lord"?

Zuma's election has raised the profile of polygamy, a mostly rural practice that has long been a challenge for Christians in Muslim nations, some parts of India, and many parts of Africa. Traditionally the practice of rich men with the land and money to support a large family, polygamy is now practiced by middle-class and poor men, said Isabel Phiri, a theology professor at the University of KwaZulu-Natal in South Africa.

Experts say the African church isn't united on what should be required when polygamists convert.

"African-initiated types of churches will be more welcoming, and you'd probably find a number of [polygamous families] in their churches," said James O. Kombo, a senior lecturer at Daystar University in Kenya. "The mission-founded types of churches will tend to have none of that."

Earlier Western missionaries felt a need to confront polygamy at the point of conversion. During colonial days in mission churches, Christians in good standing would give up the status symbol and send away all but one wife, said Kombo. Such a painful decision often meant that men would choose family or social standing over church. Medical missionary David Livingstone's single convert abandoned the faith to return to polygamy.

Many African church leaders regret zero-tolerance policies for polygamous families of converts, saying that treating those marriages as invalid raises a number of problems. Besides absolving fathers of their responsibilities and leaving many economically dependent women out in the cold, it's theologically questionable to force new converts to divorce, said Sunday Agang, an ethics professor at Jos ecwa Theological Seminary in Nigeria and a John Stott Ministries scholar.

None of the polygamists in the Old Testament were condemned specifically for having more than one wife, said Agang. "[But] God said in Malachi, 'I hate divorce.' So which one should we go for?"

Phiri tells the story of a Malawian who left his second wife and children in order to be baptized, and whose church forbade him to directly contact or aid his family after their homeland was struck by famine. "This is an example where missionaries with good intentions did not have a proper solution to the issue of polygamy," said Phiri. "They're promoting divorce without responsibility for the children. That doesn't even sound biblical."

Many African churches take a position that John Azumah, director of the Centre of Islamic Studies at the London School of Theology, calls ambiguous. If a polygamous man from a non-Christian background converts, his family is fully accepted into the church, yet such men are often not allowed to take Communion, hold a leadership position, teach, or sing in the choir—though they can participate in the offering.

These measures offer a problematic shortcut for church discipline, said Azumah. "If we deny people Holy Communion on the basis of sin, it should not only be for the polygamous. To deny someone a means of grace as a form of church discipline—I don't see how helpful that is. … Lines should be drawn to be used as corrective lines for pastoral care to turn people around, rather than to turn people out of the church."


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Perplexed

June 30, 2009  8:18pm

Robyn, certainly those of us in the Wesleyan tradition would say - as Wesley did - that communion is a means of grace.

Robyn

June 30, 2009  3:31pm

Communion is not a MEANS of grace. It's symbolic of the grace that we have already recieved. I do agree, however, that polygamous converts and their families must be welcomed and treated with respect as full and equal members of the church without regard for past sins. Perhaps the various sexual relationships could end, but without severing the familial connections.

Perplexed

June 30, 2009  12:40pm

This evening I am taking part in a discussion with Gay and Lesbian students on why Christianity is good news for them. Am I going under false pretences? I find the tone of many of the coments to be quite bizarre. They justify a patriarchal practice which reduces women to being chattals, on the gounds that the religious texts of a nomadic society thousands of years ago are ok with it while condemning even the most committted and caring same sex relationship. Whay is there scope for pastoral sensitivity (or is that simply realism) in the former case while the latter is simply forbidden? I won't get into what biblical texts might or might not say about homosexuality, no one ever changes their mind anyway. However it is worth remebering that when the Bible discusses any form of sex it is almost invariably in the context of power and the abuse of power. Why are so many Evangelicals so adamant re homosexuality?

Nelson

June 29, 2009  9:38am

Also one has to understand why Yaweh instituded marriage so one wouldn't commit fornication.....

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Hugh McBryde

June 29, 2009  7:40am

Scripture never commands anyone to marry unless that command could also be construed to marry polygynously. If you say Adam and Eve, you forget that Eve was created as Adams wife, not married to him. After that there is just a general command to be "Fruitful and Multiply" which means that in general, someone had to marry, but no one in particular. There are only two places in the whole Bible where a man is told he must marry, and in both places there was no concern for whether or not he was already married. I find that interesting.

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