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When Christian Moms Get the Blues

Oct 9 2013
On postpartum depression and the Proverbs 31 wife.

We still don't know much about 34-year-old Miriam Carey, the woman who drove her car through White House barricades before being shot and killed by police last week. A federal law enforcement official disclosed, "Our working theory is that her mental health was a significant driver in her unexpected presence in D.C." This theory stems from Carey's recent diagnosis of and treatment for postpartum psychosis.

"Postpartum depression" (PPD) is an umbrella term that encompasses everything from mild baby blues to its most serious condition, postpartum psychosis, which Carey reportedly had. In the U.S., 14 percent of postpartum women suffer from some form of PPD. Among certain demographics, the figure is as high as 35 percent.

And those are conservative numbers; experts suspect that PPD is widely under-diagnosed due to the societal expectations of new motherhood. The American Journal of Clinical Medicine states:

The majority of undiagnosed cases are probably due to the social stigma of being labeled an "unhappy mother," not to mention the public image of PPD.... They reject the term "postpartum depression" because this implies to them that their feelings are caused by their babies. For these women, it is the stigma of PPD that causes shame, fear, embarrassment, and guilt...

In addition to the stigma of mental illness, the societal portrayal of idealized motherhood adds even more strain to the emotionally taxed mother. Women attempt to hide their distress and struggle alone in fear of being labeled an unfit parent or, worse, having their baby taken from them.

Women involved in a faith community may experience additional stressors keeping them from getting help. Religious people tend to have more children than non-religious people, thus increasing a woman's odds of experiencing PPD.

Plus, churches celebrate the birth of children as one of the purposes of marriage and a response to God's positive command to "be fruitful and multiply" in Genesis 1:28. To voice that struggle and depression came along with your new baby can seem to imply that you are overlooking the "joy" in your bundle of joy, failing to see her as a blessing.

The notion of motherhood as a calling further exacerbates the pressure to be a joyous, content parent. This outlook assumes women will be instinctively and immediately pleased with and perfect at motherhood. Sadly, when PPD takes over, women may believe they have failed not just their families, but also God.

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