Former gays say the church has yet to address the problem of Christians who are struggling with homosexuality.
From all outward appearances, Mary (not her real name) is an evangelical Christian. She was reared in a fundamentalist tradition, and holds a degree from a respected evangelical college. Mary believes in the Trinity and acknowledges without reservation that Jesus Christ is the only Savior and Lord. She believes that all people are fallen and can be saved only through God’s grace. She believes the Bible is God’s Word and that Christians should strive to understand and obey it. She studies Scripture and prays regularly.
But unlike most other young Christian women, for as long as Mary can remember, she has had a sexual interest only in other women. Mary has hated herself for most of her life. “I don’t want to be gay,” she says, “not because it’s terrible, but because of the discrimination we have to endure. If I knew how to change, I would. I have prayed about it. I’ve sought counseling; people have tried to cast demons out of me.
“God has helped me to see that I’m okay. I can’t believe he wants me to feel the pain and confusion that comes from thinking homosexuality is a horrible sin.” she says. “I realize the Bible teaches that homosexuality is wrong, and I don’t take that lightly. Nobody wants to live in sin. But I’m prepared to accept judgment for how I am living. I’ve gone to God so many times and pleaded with him to take it away. I don’t know what else I can do.”
Mary is one of countless people who agonizes over reconciling her Christian faith with homosexual feelings. People who believe in basic Christian ...1
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