People are everywhere. You know what I mean? I can’t seem to get away from them. Take downtown Portland for instance. Downtown Portland is full of them. It is like walking through an anthill or living inside a pinball machine. Bodies everywhere. 
If you haven’t seen “Jill and Kevin’s Wedding Entrance,” the video that’s shown up all over the Internet since late last week, I recommend you watch it now. It’s five minutes of pure joy as the St. Paul, Minnesota, couple and their wedding party break into a choreographed dance down the aisle to the tune of R&B singer Chris Brown’s hit “Forever.” As soon as I finished watching it, I immediately posted it to Facebook and sent it to my friends with only the comment, “Stop whatever you’re doing and watch this right now!” In sum, I would say that I like it.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CnjxQRKmhUk
And I’m not the only one. So far it’s the second-most-watched video on YouTube this month, with over 10 million views as of today. And only five of those are mine (so far).
From the first beats of “Forever,” it’s clear that this isn’t going to be your standard wedding ceremony. Jill Peterson and Kevin Heinz’s playful reinterpretation of the tradition re-injects life and, perhaps, meaning into the procession. As Sarah Kaufman writes for The Washington Post:
By dancing their entrances and sending that upbeat, physical energy right back out to their guests, the Peterson-Heinz wedding turns the rote behaviors into spontaneous reactions. Of course the guests watch attentively as the wedding party bobs in. You can bet not a single child had to be shushed at that point. This was no longer a display of bad posture and dyed-to-match pumps – it was an uplifting swell of celebration with a beat. The bride – unescorted – was and wasn’t the center of attention. The true focus was on the unified, wordless but palpable emotions of her whole support system.
The guests didn’t just stand up for the bride’s entrance; they gave her a standing ovation. And by the end, we felt, as Kaufman writes, that they had “pulled us all into their story.”
I truly appreciate the way this couple celebrates the community that has brought them to this point. The party moves to the front of the church, and the energy begins to build toward the big moment. Then it comes: there is Jill, dancing not just toward her future husband, her family, and her friends, but with them as she pumps her bouquet in the air to the beat of the words, “Seems like I’ve waited my whole life / for this one night.” And it doesn’t matter that this is a secular song, or that they are dancing in a church. In a way that can only be expressed in music and motion, Jill and Kevin seem to “get it.”
I am not married, and I haven’t spent much time thinking about the meaning of weddings. But as I’ve shared this video with Christian friends and family, the conversation has in almost every case turned to a discussion of the purpose of a wedding ceremony. Must it be a somber affair? Or does a celebration like this one seem fitting for the occasion? How can we celebrate while honoring the seriousness of the commitments being made?
And how many times did you watch the video?
Most of the bodies don’t even know I am there. They are content with the companionship of their agenda or their handheld mobile device, so I return the favor.
Okay, here’s the deal. I don’t even remember his name. Truth be told, I don’t think I ever took the time to learn his name. This is just the beginning of my sickness… I mean… well, more on that later.
I was downtown. It was maybe 8:30pm on a Thursday evening. I had managed to find street parking (score!) just a few blocks away from Jake’s Grill on Tenth Street (not to be confused with Jake’s Famous Crawfish, which is up on Twelfth). I was hurrying to meet my friend Wilson.
It was a lovely evening, warm, and the streets were hopping. I was on my cell phone chatting with an old roommate from college named James. We hadn’t spoken in years and we were getting caught up. I passed the culinary school and came to the corner just across from Jake’s. The grill is situated on the Northwest corner of the old Governor Hotel, a beautiful landmark just ten blocks from the Willamette River. As I strode onto the sidewalk, I could see Wilson through the window. I waved with my free hand and prepared to enter the brass and glass doorway.
Before I could reach the handle a tall figure suddenly blocked my path. He was a few inches taller than me with scraggly blonde hair and a soiled red flannel. His hand was extended and his eyes were pleading.
“Hold on a second,” I said to James.
“What do you want?” I asked tersely but politely to the gangly man.
“Do you have a dollar?” he replied.
“A what?”
“A dollar.”
“What do you want a dollar for?”
“I’m hungry.”
He said it matter-of-factly. Then he paused. I watched his mental gears turn. I just waited; both James (still sitting on the other end of the handset) and I sat silently. Finally he continued, “There is a place up on Eleventh that sells pizza by the slice. Good pizza. And I am hungry.”
“(Hold on a minute James), okay, let me get this straight, you are looking for money for food?”
“Yessss.”
“And you can get a slice of pizza for just a dollar?”
“Well, no… no, you can’t.”
“What can you get a slice for?”
“Ummmm, three dollars and fifty cents.”
“So do you need one dollar or do you need three dollars and fifty cents?”
He looked genuinely puzzled, not because he didn’t understand, but maybe because he had never been interrogated like this before. “Well, I guess I need three dollars and fifty cents.”
“Okay then,” I said, “let me see if I have the change.” Using my one free hand, I scratched through my wallet and front pocket and soon handed the man three one-dollar bills and two quarters.
As I placed the money in his hand, his eyes were wide as pepperoni slices. He balled the money in his fist, flashed a full smile, and turned to clunk back up the sidewalk.
Poor James, he had just sat through the whole thing. I am sure it was quite a drama to hear through the handset. Unfortunately, the drama was not over.
As James and I tried to restore our dialogue, I once again heard the sound of the gangly man’s boots, but they were not headed away from me… they were headed directly for me, at me with intention. He had “target lock.”
With a single motion he rose up in front of me and swung his right arm around. He struck me with force on the left shoulder, the same arm, by the way, that held my mobile phone against my ear. His face was intense but his eyes were kind. I know now that his intent was gratitude, not assault. All the same…
The blow sent my phone sailing through the air. It crashed to the sidewalk some eight feet away. Plastic-formed and electro-fancy pieces cracked and bounced in separate directions. And then the sound…
Like the cry of the humpback whale came the gangly man’s voice from behind me. I spun to see him: body limp, jaw hung and clinched knuckles dug into the rubbery centers of his cheeks. “What have I done?! What have I done?” His eyes now fixed on the phone pieces scattered on the sidewalk. He couldn’t stop wailing. People stopped and gawked.
Then, in a moment for which I could not have predicted, nor could I take credit. I bent down at the waist. I got low enough so I could look up into the gangly man’s face and somehow snag his gaze. “Look at me. Look at me!”
Finally, he snapped from his horror and looked at me.
“Look at me. You are a person. Do you hear me? That is a phone, just a phone. You are a person. You are a person.”
Most days I walk around in a trance. In my trance I divide the humans that I pass into two categories. A few are filed away as “people” but if I am honest, most are dismissed as “objects.” They are of no more consequence than a lamppost or a mailbox, mere obstacles of inconvenience.
Then the gangly men come along. The gangly men are the conduits of God’s grace. They rescue me from my trance. They remind me that the world is full of persons. C.S Lewis said, “You have never talked to a mere human,” reminding us not to miss the transcendence of every soul we cross. The gangly men also remind me that I am not just an object. I am a person. They help me believe it and then, act in kind.
Tony “The Beat Poet” Kriz is a teacher and speaker on faith and culture. He pastors an embedded community in one of Portland’s most culturally diverse neighborhoods. His most recent book is Neighbors and Wise Men: Sacred Encounters in a Portland Pub and Other Unexpected Places (Thomas Nelson, 2012). You can follow him on Twitter: @tonykriz
