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‘Am I That Hard to Love?’ with Jerome Gay

Ever questioned your worth or value? Hear how pastor Jerome Gay has come to understand his mission of pointing others to the God who truly and freely provides these things.

Have you ever searched for your love and worth in the wrong places? Pastor Jerome Gay will be the first one to tell you he has. When his father—the person who should have been helping him define these things—was not able to provide what he needed, Jerome began searching elsewhere. Through twists and turns, Jerome finally found the One who freely loves him—and all of us—with no strings or conditions. And that love has been the fuel for his mission to train up others to grow, teach, and preach the truth of the gospel that makes each one of us whole.

Guest Bio:

Jerome Gay Jr. was raised in southeast Washington, DC, before moving to Raleigh, North Carolina, in 1997 to attend Saint Augustine’s College, graduating with a bachelor of arts in communications. While there, he founded a campus-wide ministry that emphasized the gospel and biblical orthodoxy in the urban context, resulting in the decision of many students to profess Christ as Savior.

Upon graduating, Jerome served as an elder for several years. After fervent prayer, he was led to plant Vision Church in Raleigh in October 2010. He is now the lead pastor of teaching and vision, and Vision Church has grown by God’s grace to impact the inner city by missionally engaging people with the gospel of Jesus Christ through discipleship, leadership development, service, and holistic empowerment. Jerome has a vision to see gospel-centered churches and leaders raised within the urban context and sent out to plant other gospel-centered churches.

Jerome is also founder and president of The Urban Perspective and author of four books, Church Hurt: Holding the Church Accountable and Helping Hurt People Heal, Talking to Your Children About Race, The Whitewashing of Christianity: A Hidden Past, a Hurtful Present and a Hopeful Future and Renewal: Grace and Redemption in the Story.

Jerome is the proud husband to his wife Crystal and father of two.

Notes & Quotes:

  • “Uncertainty is what makes you walk by faith and not by sight.”
  • “I believe you most aptly understand God’s will in hindsight. He knows the end from the beginning. We don’t. We're living it.”
  • “My contention for the church is we’re saying that there’s one way, which I concur, that there’s one God, I concur, and that there’s one book. Again, I concur. We’re saying that that’s just one book for 8 billion people. If we’re going to make that claim, and we are, we need to be able to defend it. We should not make that claim that there’s one book for 8 billion people and not be able to answer questions.”
  • “We must stop giving faith-based answers to fact-based questions.”
  • “We want to come back to that gospel foundation so that we can have men that are mentally, emotionally, and relationally well and whole.”

Links Mentioned:

Verses Mentioned:

  • Psalm 77
  • 1 Corinthians 7:32
  • Jude 1:20
  • Ephesians 6:17
  • Hebrews 4:12
  • Genesis 2:18
  • Matthew 5:13–16
  • Mark 1:15

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