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WHEN YOUR FAMILY IS IN CRISIS

How can ministry families respond when gripped by crisis? Based on Barb’s and my experience, here are a few suggestions:

1. Accept God’s forgiveness given to parents and children who painfully face their mistakes. Such forgiveness does not erase the consequences of past errors, but it does guarantee a new start through our Lord’s loving grace. Life is not over.

2. Discover God’s divine network. As we prayerfully place family members in his hands, the Holy Spirit has many unnamed heroes upon whom he can draw to aid our loved ones. Ask him to do just that. And while awaiting his response, we can be part of that network ourselves in answer to someone else’s prayers.

3. Talk openly about your feelings with your spouse. Share concerns. This is a time for closeness, not distance.

4. Find a support system: a trusted confidant, a mature minister friend, a competent Christian psychologist. Seek wise counsel, full of objectivity and perspective.

5. Maintain hope. Reading the Scriptures and spending time with God are especially important. My wife read the Psalms at least ten times as she sought comfort and hope during our dark days.

6. Lower expectations of your personal creativity, objectivity, and productivity. Do keep on going, but realize a long crisis may render you incapable of giving your top performance. Give yourself permission to adjust your pace.

7. Prepare yourself for the time you’ll be needed again. When your child faces divorce, trouble with the law, or other kinds of personal failure, become a resource for change and healing. Be silent in judgments. Offer advice only when asked. Affirm successes. And love, love, love.

-Milton Lee

Copyright © 1989 by the author or Christianity Today/Leadership Journal. Click here for reprint information on Leadership Journal.

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