Pastors

Getting Men into Church

Insight from “How Women Can Help Men Find God”

Guys will spend more time and money in a hair salon that looks like a locker room,” David Murrow says. “What’s the lesson for the local church?”

Butch up the service, apparently.

Murrow, whose first book told us Why Men Hate Going to Church, has a new volume on the man/church conundrum. Men favor larger, multi-ethnic congregations with strong pastoral leadership and characteristic excellence.

And they don’t like overly feminine worship services. He calls these men “praise skippers,” the ones who intentionally arrive late and miss the music. Murrow advises:

  • Get out the hymnal and sing “guy” songs: Rise Up O Men of God, Onward Christian Soldiers, and such—with the original, non-PC language.
  • Choose “respect” songs about God over breathy “love” songs about “embracing.”
  • Lower the key. Guys can’t reach the castrati heights of today’s music, and don’t want to.
  • Give men a goal in worship: “Today we’re talking about the sin of pride,” for example.

—from How Women Can Help Men Find God

Copyright © 2008 by the author or Christianity Today/Leadership Journal.Click here for reprint information on Leadership Journal.

Also in this issue

At the end of the day, this is not a Republican or Democratic issue. This is a kingdom issue. —Efrem Smith

Diverse by Design

interview with Mark DeYmaz

The Coaching Approach to Care

Chris Blumhofer

A Losing Proposition

Non-prophet Preaching

Loving Salinas

Lois Swagerty

Backward or Forward?

Reviewed by Chad Hall

Body Politic

Charles Colson, Gregory Boyd, and Shane Claiborne

Does Your Preaching Touch Politics?

Mark Dever, Adam Hamilton, Joel Hunter, and Efrem Smith

30-Day Sex Challenge

Sam O'Neal

Betty's Secret Ingredient

A City Upon "The Hill"

From "Have To" to "Want To" Sermons

Bryan Wilkerson

One King's Money, Another King's Men

Chuck Coward

Reaching Imprisoned Dads

Sam O'Neal

The Church & Politics Quiz

analysis by Amy E. Black

Fessing Up

Gordon T. Smith

I Have This Feeling ...

On the Verge

an interview with David Gibbons

What the Unchurched See in a Building

Matt Branaugh

Preparing a Table

Dave Dack

New Life After the Shootings

an interview with Brady Boyd by Phil and Pam Brown

Top 10 Things Churches Need to Know About Zoning

John Mauck

The Best Zoning Defense ...?

Collin Hansen

Making the Secular Sacred

Rick Muchow

Can You Hear God Now?

Cartoon

Bringing Church Problems Home

Dennis Fletcher

Cartoon

Hide and Watch Leadership Style

Dennis Fletcher

Cartoon

Make Me Sound Like Chuck Swindoll

Rob Portlock

Cartoon

Idolizing Earthly Leaders

Dennis Fletcher

Cartoon

Man from Church Across the Street Collecting Offering

Joseph Farris

Cartoon

Speaking Wisdom to Sleeping Preacher

Dan Pegoda

Cartoon

Debating the Apocrypha

Dennis Fletcher

View issue

Our Latest

From Our Community

A Commitment to the Gospel Is A Commitment to Diversity

Caitlin Edwards

Rev. Dr. Gabriel Salguero shares how the Gospel teaches us to love our neighbors and build bridges.

News

Nigerian Christian Schools Fill Gaps for Students with Disabilities

Emiene Erameh

Many public schools can’t offer special education, so churches offer needed resources and community.

The Russell Moore Show

Moore to the Point: Why Christians Ignore What the Bible Says About Immigrants

Believers can disagree on migration policies—but the Word of God should shape how we minister to vulnerable people.

Being Human

Adam Young on Trauma and Theology: Why Your Certainty Might Be Just a Fancy Disguise

Can exploring the impact of trauma on our lives lead wounds to wisdom?

 

Studying Pain ‘Causes Me to Pine for Eternity’

Interview by Yi Ning Chiu

A clinical psychologist explains her research on the brain, suffering, and culture—and what she’s learned about God’s beautiful design.

The Bulletin

Venezuelan Oil, LA Fires Aftermath, and Revival In America

Mike Cosper, Clarissa Moll, Russell Moore

The global aftershock of military action in Venezuela, California churches rebuild one year after LA fires, and the possibility of revival in America.

What Christian Parents Should Know About Roblox

Isaac Wood

The gaming platform poses both content concerns and safety risks that put minors in “the Devil’s crosshairs.” The company says tighter restrictions are coming.

How Artificial Intelligence Is Rewiring Democracy

Three books on politics and public life to read this month.

Apple PodcastsDown ArrowDown ArrowDown Arrowarrow_left_altLeft ArrowLeft ArrowRight ArrowRight ArrowRight Arrowarrow_up_altUp ArrowUp ArrowAvailable at Amazoncaret-downCloseCloseEmailEmailExpandExpandExternalExternalFacebookfacebook-squareGiftGiftGooglegoogleGoogle KeephamburgerInstagraminstagram-squareLinkLinklinkedin-squareListenListenListenChristianity TodayCT Creative Studio Logologo_orgMegaphoneMenuMenupausePinterestPlayPlayPocketPodcastRSSRSSSaveSaveSaveSearchSearchsearchSpotifyStitcherTelegramTable of ContentsTable of Contentstwitter-squareWhatsAppXYouTubeYouTube