Along with the rest of the country, I followed the debate over whether the Confederate battle flag should be removed from the South Carolina state house lawn in the wake of the massacre in Charleston last month.

What struck me most about what it took to get the flag down was the role of female voices in the public square.

From the moment we learned of the massacre, Nikki Haley—South Carolina’s first female governor—was front and center, expressing her outrage and sharing in the grief of her fellow South Carolinians. She spoke honestly and vulnerably. She let her voice shake. She cried. Haley was present at each vigil and memorial service, flanked by male politicians.

Even as a leader in the Republican Party, which had long supported the presence of the flag, she ultimately took a stand against it. "We are not going to allow this symbol to divide us along longer,” she declared just days after the shooting. “The fact that it causes so [much] pain is enough to move it from the capitol grounds. It is, after all, a capitol that belongs to all of us."

When the flag finally came down for good, who can forget the tearful speech that poured out of state legislator Jenny Horne? On the state house floor, the Republican lawmaker and descendant of Confederate president Jefferson Davis choked up as she called on her fellow legislators to vote to remove the controversial flag. One of my friends said she sounded like a mother scolding her children. (And that’s a good thing.)

We’ve heard so much in recent years about women and their emotions. Some tell women to downplay their feelings and hold back their tears, lest they be viewed as weak. After all, there’s no crying ...

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