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Suicide Mission

Jamie Tworkowski’s nonprofit shows love to self-destructive teens.

One day, Jamie Tworkowski might hear from someone who decided not to commit suicide after seeking help from his nonprofit, To Write Love on Her Arms (TWLOHA). The next day, he might speak at a memorial for a girl who took her own life, even after reaching out. "We never get used to stuff like that," says Tworkowski, "but I don't think we're supposed to. That stuff just breaks our hearts and reminds us what's at stake."

Tworkowski, 30, founded TWLOHA in early 2006 while helping a 19-year-old friend, Renee, who was struggling with addiction, depression, self-injury (she had written "F---Up" with a razor on her forearm), and attempted suicide. While Renee debated getting treatment, Tworkowski and other friends offered support; in the meantime, he wrote an essay, "To Write Love on Her Arms," addressing Renee's situation. The name stuck, T-shirts started selling, Christian bands (including Switchfoot) started spreading the word, and a movement was born. Since then, TWLOHA—partnering with the likes of Teen Challenge, S.A.F.E. Alternatives, and others—has responded to more than 150,000 people (many in crisis) and donated over $700,000 to treatment and recovery centers.

Question & Answer

Is TWLOHA a Christian organization?

No. The word Christian, in my opinion, has been abused and misrepresented. It's a label that alienates people. Jesus didn't come to establish a subculture; he came to heal the world. With TWLOHA, we are simply trying to let people know that they matter, that they're not alone in their struggles, and that hope and help are real.

How does your faith inform your work?

My faith is the lens I see the world through. I believe that God loves people and cares about people's pain.

"To Write Love on Her Arms" is a clunky title. Why stick with it?

Our title causes people to wonder what it means. It opens up a conversation and invites people to learn more. Our title says a lot about who we are and how we approach what we do.

How do you promote TWLOHA?

I probably spend half my time on the road. I'm speaking more frequently at colleges and universities, where we are starting more chapters. Folks from our team go out on the Warped Tour and to other music festivals. If you see our tent somewhere, we're not just selling T-shirts. We're there for the conversations.

What else does TWLOHA do?

We also address depression, addiction, and suicide. The big picture is how we cope with pain. We're talking about issues that affect male and female, young and old, rich and poor, black and white, the world over.

What would you say to the church about engaging those issues?

We have to let people know it's okay to be human, to admit questions and struggles. And let's not ignore the tools and solutions. If someone breaks their arm, you don't just pray—you take them to get the bone fixed. Let's do the same for people battling depression and addiction, by getting them treatment and medicine.


Related Elsewhere:

More information about To Write Love on Her Arms (or TWLOHA) is available on its website.

Christianity Today has a special section on death & dying.

Other articles on suicide include:

In the Valley of the Shadow of Suicide | A mother catches glimmers of hope after losing a son. (April 24, 2009)
Suicide — A Preventable Tragedy? | A ministry helps churches handle the complex issue. (July 6, 2000)
CT Classic: Suicide and the Silence of Scripture | Though the church has come to opposing conclusions about the fate of victims, we have a mandate to minister to those left behind. (July 6, 2000)

Previous "Who's Next" sections featured Bryan Jennings, L. L. Barkat, Robert Gelinas, Nicole Baker Fulgham, Gideon Strauss, W. David O. Taylor, Crystal Renaud, Eve Nunez, Adam Taylor, Matthew Lee Anderson, Margaret Feinberg, and Jonathan Merritt.


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Rene S

November 19, 2010  12:20pm

"If someone breaks their arm, you don't just pray—you take them to get the bone fixed." This reminds me about a story I heard. There is a man standing on his roof amid a dangerous flood. He professes his faith and prays to God. While he is praying, a man on a raft comes by and tells him to get in. "No!" Said the man. "God will save me." A canoe and a boat stop by with the same response. The man drowns. When he gets to heaven he asks God why He did not save him. God replies, "I sent a raft, a canoe, and a boat for you, but you refused my help." Praying is good, but actions are better. After all, what is faith without deeds?

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Nadia al-Rahman

November 17, 2010  2:50pm

The title to this article, "Suicide Mission" is both misreprentative of the "mission" of the organization and also brings to membrance the perceived and/or real threats committed against our country and abroad my terrorists. TWLOHA, however, is a wonderful and literally life-saving organization. And I think you whole heartedly for your interview with Jamie T.

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Greg L

November 17, 2010  12:08pm

About two years ago when a few TWLOHR representatives came to our highschool part of the church, they had us all write something good about ourselves in sharpie on our arms and leave it on us even after church, to wear all day :]

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