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Breast-feeding in the Back Pew

Why are we so uncomfortable when nursing mothers imitate God in church?
Andrea Solari / Yorck Project

Breast-feeding in the Back Pew

This Christmas, many of us will strive once again to reflect on the significance of the Incarnation. We will try to remember, amid the usual busyness, the strange wonder of God coming to earth as a baby, of an unwed teenager carrying God-in-the-flesh in her flesh.

If it is remarkable that an ordinary woman carried our Savior in her body, it is equally so that she nourished him with that same body—specifically with her breasts.

Our world looks so different from first-century Palestine. Today an unmarried pregnant woman does not fear the public embarrassment that Joseph spared Mary, and a baby would be born in a stable only in an absolute emergency. If he had followed the customs of the time, Joseph wouldn't have attended Jesus' birth. Yet for all the ways modern Western culture seem brazenly relaxed compared with the culture of Jesus' time, there is one act we're more squeamish about, especially in our worship spaces.

Our sacred spaces should not exclude but embrace the bodily aspects of our humanity.

Early this year, a Georgia woman claimed she was kicked out of worship for breast-feeding her infant. I know a bit of what she must have felt: On a family trip to St. Peter's Basilica in Vatican City, as I started to breast-feed my son in the sanctuary, I was whisked away by a security guard to the bathroom. Countless other Christian women, trying to feed their children without having to miss a sermon, have faced the disapproval of others who think breasts have no place in the sanctuary.

How widespread the no-breast-feeding rule is in U.S. churches is hard to say. But one thing's clear: Our squeamishness over breast-feeding has little precedent in the church. Instead, Christians have long celebrated this aspect of Jesus' early life. Church father Ephrem the Syrian wrote a collection of hymns on the Nativity, including this, which connects the humble picture of Jesus nursing from Mary's breasts to Jesus' generous provision as King of all creation:

The Lofty One became like a little child,
yet hidden in Him was a treasure of
Wisdom that suffices for all.
He was lofty but he sucked Mary's milk,
and from His blessings all creation sucks.

Ephrem's comfort with a breast-feeding Mary appears in much devotional art through the centuries. Tender images of Mary nursing Jesus, known as Maria Lactans, flourished after the 13th century, when theologians and artists began contemplating a fully human Christ. But in the 16th century attitudes changed, and the Council of Trent condemned nudity in church art; Michelangelo's Sistine Chapel nudes summarily received painted loincloths and other strategically placed cover-ups. With Pope John Paul II's approval, the coverings were removed during the chapel's renovation: "The human body," he said, "can remain nude and uncovered and preserve intact its splendor and its beauty." It's not just Catholic thinkers who have gone this route. Martin Luther celebrated the physical bond between Mary and Jesus, noting in his famous Christmas sermon that Mary "nourished the child with milk from her breast and not with strange milk … her breast being filled by heaven, without injury or impurity."

Following in the footsteps of the church fathers, our sacred spaces should likewise embrace the human body in all its mess. In a culture where breasts are perennially on display—but where breast-feeding is often regarded with disgust or at least embarrassment—allowing mothers to breast-feed in worship would counter how sexualized breasts are in modern culture. It would also communicate respect for mothers, many of whom feel shunned or outlawed when asked to use segregated rooms to feed their babies. The earthy eloquence of breast-feeding, even in church, would also remind us of both the humanness of our Savior and of God's loving sustenance of us through all the seasons of our lives.


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December 2012, Vol. 56, No. 11, Pg 60, "Breast-feeding in the Back Pew"
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Karen Beculhimer

January 03, 2013  8:08pm

As long as you do whatever you do discreetly it doesn't bother me one bit. I wouldn't cover up great art, I think that is bizarre that people would even think of it. I think having a separate nursing room available is nice as an option though.

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Jim Ricker

December 26, 2012  7:21pm

Hi Suzannah, I'm not sure where you are finding evidence of gnosticism in the commenters on this thread but I would agree with you on the seemingly automatic view that a woman feeding her child discreetly is somehow some evil and, that men are uncontrollable pigs drooling over a mom feeding her child. Although I can easily admit to not having all the ancient rabbinical writings memorized but, I can find no law or regulation against breastfeeding in public - except that the whole breast should not be exposed. Since Jewish women breastfed for at least two years (see Hannah, Miriam and Sarah among the other few examples), it would be almost impossible to do so tucked away in some other room (or trying to find some quiet alley at the market). If there is rabbincal writings or a law against breastfeeding in public from ancient Israel, it would be great to see it. In the end, as long as a mom is discreet we should ditch the unbiblical, cultural expectations.

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Claire Guest

December 23, 2012  12:46am

Suzannah, really? "Many" comments here convey the outlandish ideas you posted? I am a mom who has breastfed all my children, I've been a very vocal proponent of breastfeeding since I first learned its benefits and then witnessed them in my children, and I have not read the things you accuse posters here of saying. Methinks thou doth protest WAY too much. In truth, Rachel's article posited some very outlandish and even false ideas, clearly seen when held up to the standard of God's Word.

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Suzannah Paul

December 21, 2012  7:44pm

rachel, thank you for writing this. many of these comments are extremely disheartening and betray a particularly low view of mothers and babies (send them away!) and men, too, whose ingrained propensity to objectify (really?) somehow trumps a child's need to eat or a mother's desire to nourish her babe and *still* participate in community life and worship. it reeks of gnostic heresy and a strangely sacralized version of "men are pigs!". weren't we made for more in our life together?

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Jim Ricker

December 21, 2012  2:47pm

If the benefits are superficial, why are we worried about people being distracted from something that is so superficial?

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