SoulWork
What to Do with Aunt Julie
I once had an aunt with a serious case of schizophrenia. She thought one of her daughters came to her on a beam of light from the moon. She also had rages of temper and threatened to kill her children. Things got so bad, she had to be hospitalized for a time, and then medicated for years.
One day I was driving through the community where she lived, Bryte (just over the river from Sacramento), because my mother spent a large part of her childhood there. I was with my wife and my father; I had asked my dad to explain everything he knew about my late mother's life there—where she lived, the gas station she was born in, and other such lore. We were hoping to do a drive by, wanting to avoid my Aunt Julie at all costs. But as we drove down her street, we spotted a man shouting for help from a rooftop. It appeared his ladder had fallen over. So my dad got out of the car and propped the ladder up against his house.
As fate would have it, this man's house stood next to my aunt's house, and before my dad could make a safe escape, out popped Aunt Julie, "Bob? Bob Galli!? What are you doing here? What a wonderful surprise!"
And before you know it, we were in Aunt Julie's house, sipping coffee and soft drinks, listening to her strange and wonderful stories.
We have a fair number of Aunt Julies in the church, don't we? People who tell strange and wonderful stories about the end of the world. Those who in a crazy burst of Islamophia burn the Koran. Those who are sincerely confused about what type of prosperity the gospel promises. Those on the left and the right who equate their politics with divine politics. Those who are in love with their self-righteousness more than God. Maybe some readers think this author and Christianity Today are crazy aunts!
In any event, each of us has to put up with crazy aunts in the family called the church. Just when we think we can pass them by on the other side of the road (like the priest and the Levite tried to pass by the mugged victim), they come running toward us with a smile and a warm greeting. Or they drop in unexpectedly at our church. Or they make headlines—and this just after we've pulled off a program that's done a pretty good job of making God or the church look cool again.
We're tempted at such moments to distance ourselves from them. To push them away. To lock them out. We're likely to mock them so that others will know we're not like them. In short, we disown them. We say, "They're not one of us."
The problem is that they very much are one of us. They are naming the name of Jesus, proclaiming loyalty to him first and foremost. Often they are making substantial sacrifices of fame or fortune to do what they feel God is calling them to do. And they don't care, because they believe they are doing it for Jesus.
When my Aunt Julie rushed out to greet us, we had no choice but to fellowship with her. She was my blood. She was the mother of my cousins. She was the sister of my mother. She deserved some respect. And more. My mother loved her, as did her daughters. So I needed to love her.
Earlier in her life, to love Aunt Julie meant to keep her from her children lest she harm them. At one point, it meant putting her in a mental ward. Later it meant making sure she took her medicine. By the time of the ladder incident, when medication seemed to be doing the trick, it meant listening to her strange stories with genuine interest, to laugh at her jokes (which, in fact, were often very funny), and to treat her like family.
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jerry bricker
I think Mr. Camping is our 'Aunt Julie'. He hasn't repudiated Christ. The worst that can be said about him is that his system of Biblical interpretation is hokey and he still can't admit it.
Solus Christus
If we need to make up yet another word, it should be "Islamophobia". I guess. But one important distinction that should be made is that, beyond all my belief, people are actually following "leaders" such as Camping. I think they would be less likely to follow Aunt Julie.
Corky Riley
I am a psychotherapist working in the field for 25 years and more. I perfer working with the seriously mentally ill. We need more honesty such as was represented in this essay.
Randy Carruthers
It appears to me that Theresa Mills and Donald Macneil have grossly misunderstood Galli. To me his essay was a statement about his own growth in grace and love toward those who make us very uncomfortable, the Aunt Julies and Harold Campings in our lives.
theresa mills
This article compares the author's aunt--a person with a serious disability--with people who murder, people who burn the Koran, with false prophets, and more. Do you not get it? Having a disability is NOT being evil. A disability is something an individual has through no fault of their own. Many Godly believers have severe disabilities. Yet you compare this poor woman, afflicted with schizophrenia, to evil people. You should be ashamed to propagate these falsehoods against people with disabilities, who are the most discriminated group in society, as well as the most vulnerable group in society. The church should be doing everything to help people with disabilities, not to disparage them. The author, who calls himself a Christian, calls his aunt "crazy" because she has a disability. He should be ashamed. Christianity Today should be ashamed to print something with the word "crazy" referring to a disabled person. I don't see you using the N word, yet you use this word. Shame on you.