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Should Christian Colleges Encourage Students to Marry Each Other?

A Facebook study says they’re good at it. Experts weigh in on whether they should do more.

In this graphic from Facebook's Data Science team, circles represent colleges, with colors indicating how likely it is that alumni married each other. Where alumni married alumni from another specific school in disproportionately high numbers, a curved line is shown.

In this graphic from Facebook's Data Science team, circles represent colleges, with colors indicating how likely it is that alumni married each other. Where alumni married alumni from another specific school in disproportionately high numbers, a curved line is shown.

Courtesty of Facebook Data Science Team

The stereotypes of "ring by spring" and the "MRS degree" are proving true—at least at Christian colleges. According to Facebook's data science team, of the top 12 schools offering both men and women the best "chance of finding a spouse," 11 are Christian. (Council for Christian Colleges and Universities members include Dordt College, Oklahoma Christian University, and Kentucky Christian University.) Reactions below are listed on a spectrum, with "Yes" at the top and "No" at the bottom.

"Christian colleges must challenge the unnecessary delay of marriage among millennials and teach them a worldview that honors it. I pray that college pastors, professors, and administrators would esteem marriage as highly valuable and teach healthy relationship formation." Ted Cunningham, author, Young and in Love

"Not directly, but nor should colleges discourage marriage. When finding a mate becomes known as a goal of college, it hampers friendship. But solid friendship should definitely be part of their mission. If they succeed at that, good marriages will likely follow." Lisa Graham McMinn, writer in residence, George Fox University

"Their mission is to educate students to engage the world for the kingdom. But when students focus their education on a Christian framework, God may bring couples together as they are obtaining their education to work in a unified manner toward the Great Commission." Lynne Kohm, professor of family law, Regent University

"There is already enough pressure on young Christians to marry, and many are marrying early who shouldn't. Christian colleges should be in the business of encouraging students to follow God's calling in their lives. If that includes marriage, great. If it doesn't include marriage, great." Christine Colón, professor of English, Wheaton College

"Making such a mission explicit would contribute to the same dating consumerism we see in the culture. I don't want my kids going to college to shop for a spouse but to get an education. Colleges should promote the Christian virtues of loving your neighbor in general." Winston Smith, faculty, Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation

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