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Resisting The Urge To Hit Back

When revenge tempts you, here's how to forgive completely.

I had just received a scathing letter from a couple unhappy about a situation in the youth department. Their response was carnal; they certainly didn't understand the whole situation. I hadn't yet been able to meet with them.

When I preached that Sunday morning, I carried a grudge. I made quips that gave everyone a chuckle — everyone except the couple who sent the letter. They sat stoically, eyes staring through me.

By the time I finished the sermon (with no more humor), I felt physically sick and spiritually wasted. My unforgiveness was quickly growing into bitterness and resentment.

My tendency not to forgive even insignificant offenses has forced me to think about the steps I need to take to restore my relationship with God and the offender.

Recognize My Weak Spots

Most people tend to be sensitive when they've been battered numerous times. Some of my worst conflicts in ministry have involved people who I felt lacked grace and understanding. I'm quickly set off by people who excel in ...

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