Inevitably, it happens a few times throughout the year, always when we're exhausted, feeling overworked and as if everyone wants a piece of us. It's our recurring major fight (most couples have one). It's the fight over who does more housework and who is slacking off. It is motivated when, yet again, I've had it with being responsible for what is in my mind the majority of childcare and household chores. I am a stay-at-home mom who works full time during the academic year overseeing a dorm of 154 female college students. My husband is a philosophy professor. When school starts, we both have very full schedules. So when I am bound and determined to renegotiate our responsibilities, to set things straight, I am ashamed to say, I'm usually the one guilty of firing off the first volleys.
During the course of those volleys, I spout off anecdotal evidence from other working women who complain they do the lion's share of the housework and child rearing. I even cite studies that seem to legitimize those complaints. I point out that men appear to get a pass on housework. And so my diatribe proceeds.
Sharing household responsibilities is no trivial issue. The stakes here are high. Indeed, a British study suggests that divorce is twice as likely when husbands neglect helping out around the house. Marriages are on the line. Consequently, it is urgent that men start pulling their own weight around the house.
But maybe they are, if we are to believe the results of the latest study featured in Time magazine's cover article entitled: "Chore Wars" by Ruth Davis Konigsberg. The article depletes my arsenal of arguments by highlighting a significant study suggesting that the workload has evened out for men and women; more men are contributing ...1
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