Time-Release Reconciliation

After our fight, Doug and his wife left the church. So why do I, and they, still care?

Mondays, for ministers, are like surprise birthday parties. You never know if you'll get swamped by a wave of black balloons and needling reminders of how close you are to death, or if you'll surf the sounds of celebration, exhilarated by heartfelt well-done's.

On a particularly frigid mid-December Monday, I ventured into the fellowship hall to check for a misplaced box of Bible study literature. My eyes were arrested by a can't-miss-it note attached by a wad of masking tape to the pulpit in the corner. Scrawled on yellow legal paper in characteristically Doug-esque fashion, the memo said, "What the h— is THIS doing here?!!!"

Hmm, I thought. A black-balloon Monday.

I reluctantly admit now, years after moving the pulpit, that there are better ways to effect change in church. Maybe if I had greased a few squeaky wheels first. Maybe if I had mentioned to some key influencers my plan to make room for the children's puppet ministry, just maybe, if I had asked for their advice, someone might have ...

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