Sometimes, Kids Don’t Need to Share
Spend 10 minutes with group of toddlers and you’ll soon hear an adult admonish, “You need to share!”
Little ones routinely offend social norms: They don’t ask. They grab. They whine. They impressively arch their backs when they don’t get something they want. These behaviors are offensive to us sensible adults! So, to help them become socially adept, we teach them to share.
Sharing has become the pinnacle of virtuous toddlerhood whereby all children get a turn, there are no tears, and peace is preserved. And since no one wants to be the guilty parent with the offending child, moms and dads routinely apologize to their child’s playmates (and caregivers) on behalf of their unsharing tot. Their words are layered with more than a hint of parental shame: She’s not good at sharing. We’re working on it.
And work on it we should—perhaps by considering that forced sharing is not the way to go.
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