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Dating: Are We Doing It Wrong?

How Tinder and courtship are hurting my game
Dating: Are We Doing It Wrong?
Image: ARTWORK BY MIKE ELLIS

The dating apocalypse is upon us! At least that’s what a recent Vanity Fair article, “Tinder and the Dawn of the ‘Dating Apocalypse’,” claims. Is it true? Are we really in a “dating apocalypse”—or worse, a “marriage apocalypse”? Is that why, at 26-that-basically-rounds-up-to-30, I can be hopelessly alone on a Friday, despite being willing to split the check, carry the conversation, and even indulge an anecdote about your pet rat? Surely, there’s a better way.

As Nancy Jo Sales bleakly describes the dating scene and the effects of hookup culture, I can’t help but see a correlation with a seemingly opposite phenomenon in the church: courtship. It seems that the impetus behind hookup culture and the desires that drive courtship may not be all that different.

The Holier Version of Hooking Up

In the world that Sales details, men and women sit side by side at a bar, and instead of exchanging wry glances and shy smiles, they’re ...

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Posted:October 28, 2015
This article was originally published in the October 2015 issue of Today's Christian Woman.
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