Crisis Intervention: Coffee And Cake

The other day I completed one of those self-analysis surveys in a psychology magazine, and I discovered I was going through a mid-life crisis. I casually mentioned it to my wife and she replied, “I didn’t even know you were in mid-life.” So much for domestic sympathy.

“Why not throw the magazine into the trash can?” I asked myself. Then I answered myself: “Won’t do any good. I would just go looking for it, only to discover it had been burned, and then I would feel worse. Imagine having my mid-life crisis go up in smoke!”

No, the only manly thing to do was to take myself by the nape of the neck, shake myself soundly, and face my crisis honestly. I did this two or three times, and spent the rest of the morning lying under a deep-heat, infrared lamp. Next time I will shake myself from some other part of my anatomy.

Finally my spouse got the message. “So you’re going through a crisis! So what? Being in the ministry is one crisis after another anyway. First it was getting into seminary. (How did you get in, by the way?) Then it was paying for seminary. Then it was getting a church. Then it was staying in a church. So, what’s one more little crisis. You’ll live.”

Alas, she did not understand. This was a mid-life crisis, totally unlike any other crisis in a man’s life. I could never again be in this same crisis, and it had taken me many years to get there. I had to savor it and make the most of it. It would be tragic to come this far and not enjoy my own crisis.

I sat in my favorite rocking chair and pondered the mysteries of mid-life. I wished Gary Collins or Jay Adams were there to assure me that everything would be all right. I was wondering if anybody really understood.

About midway through my ...

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