Church Leadership
Pastor, Be Careful the Snapshots You Bring Home from Church
When things are going badly at the church, it can be hard on the pastor. But it’s often harder on our spouse.

Give Them Better Snapshots

The primary picture our spouses have of the church’s inner workings are filtered through us.

While we get to engage in the change process, they silently absorb it all.

As pastors, our primary ministry responsibility is to our spouse and family.

As pastors, our primary ministry responsibility is to our spouse and family. This begins by giving them better snapshots of the church and the people in it.

No, we shouldn’t sugar-coat things. They can spot that a mile away. And we should never give false pictures to anyone, anyway – especially our family.

But using our spouse as our primary (often our only) sounding board for unloading every bad thing from the church doesn’t help us, them or the church.

This is why it’s essential for a pastor to have a coach, a mentor or a trusted friend to talk to.

Don’t hide things from your spouse. That’s never healthy.

But when you give them snapshots, make sure there are a lot of great ones mixed in with the bad.

Better yet, take them along for the movie.

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February 27, 2017 at 3:41 AM

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