"Wanna grab a burrito 2nite?"

The melody of the Atlanta symphony's instruments flowed through the auditorium. I didn't have high expectations for dating at 23, but a text containing the word burrito wasn't exactly what I had in mind (and with 1 hour notice). I liked him, but couldn't escape the mental picture of showing up in a swanky outfit to an establishment where my entrance would be announced in a jubilee of "Welcome to Moe's!"

The resounding question I hear from many single women today is: "Where have all the good men gone?"

Recently, several articles and statistics have shown that women are making history with career achievements, while men in increasing numbers are seemingly living in a prolonged state of adolescence, sitting back with their buddies and playing video games. Cultural observers note that men are not finding compelling reasons to grow up and marry. The former cultural standards of marriage for sex and children have changed drastically in the past 50 years as one-night stands are celebrated and single parenthood accepted.

And women are only fueling this behavior by excusing it.

The charged response to my husband's blog post "Real Men Don't Text "revealed women's frustration with text messages, video games, and guys who still act like frat boys. Women posted the link on Facebook and wrote things like "Can I get an a-men?" "Men! Read This!" Others wrote in with stories about men who had asked them out through text, broke up with them through text, and asked them to have sex through text. Men were challenged to "grow a pair, pick up your Bible, turn off the video game, and pursue a woman." But an interesting perspective arose from the clamor of "Amens!" Several men said that while "real men don't text," real ...

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