Earlier this year I reflected at Her.meneutics on lessons learned in anticipating my upcoming marriage. I continue to learn new lessons, for marriage is an ever-present schoolmaster. You see, I married relatively late (39), and through those single years, I had far fewer positive relationships with males than I would like to admit, not to mention a couple extremely negative ones. I've been tempted to attribute the failings of a few to the larger group, at times wielding what C. S. Lewis called the "hidden or flaunted […] sword between the sexes," which Lewis himself thought could be removed by what he called an "entire marriage."
For me, marriage has indeed dispelled certain prejudices against men. I realize now how I had drawn big conclusions from small, unrepresentative samples. Such fallacious patterns writ large are exactly what generate gender stereotypes, in both directions. Women, so the stereotype trumpets, are passive followers, emotional, relational—the feelers. Men, in contrast, are assertive and rational—the leaders and problem solvers, the thinkers. Or worse: aggressive, exploitative, predatory.
As a philosophy professor, my husband has taught many business ethics classes, and he's told me that those students who are the staunchest defenders of the most cutthroat and unscrupulous business practices, almost without exception, are men. He admits with chagrin that sometimes, because of such anecdotal evidence, he's tempted to believe that women in general and on average (with plenty of room for exceptions) just "get" ethics better than men. Why are 90 percent of people in jails male? Why are the majority of violent sociopaths in our society men, and why is the number so high?
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