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Mentoring Is Better than Curriculum: Seven Steps to Better Discipleship
How to implement Jethro's plan and Jesus' process to turn believers into disciples. Whatever size your church is.

But even introverts like us can pull this off.

Jesus did this with the disciples. After teaching crowds in parables, he’d gather the disciples around, answer their questions, explain deeper truths and even tell them why he taught the way he did. Then he’d go off to a private place to spend time with the Father.

Mentoring has no shortcuts. It takes relationships. And relationships take time. Time spent together.

4. Tell Them Why

If all we want to do is teach people what they should know, we can keep relying on curriculum. But if we want to raise disciples, we can’t just tell them how to do things.

They need to know why they’re doing it.

“God said it, I believe it, that settles it” isn’t enough any more. It never was.

It’s not disobedient, stubborn or nosy of people to ask us why we do what we do or believe what we believe. It’s smart.

In fact, if I start mentoring someone and they just follow me blindly without asking why, I start wondering if I’ve picked the right protégé.

We’re training disciples of Jesus, not clones of ourselves.

Remember, we’re training disciples of Jesus, not clones of ourselves. If they don’t know why they’re doing things, they’ll never be able to adapt and improve on it when needed.

We need an army of believers who can adapt, adjust and do things better than we did them.

5. Trust Them To Do It Without You

At some point you have to send them off all by themselves.

They won’t do it exactly like you did it. They’re not supposed to.

The biggest word in this point is “trust.” At some point in our mentoring – and it needs to happen earlier, rather than later – we need to trust. Trust them, trust our mentoring and trust God that they can do it without us.

But don’t end the mentoring here. Thinking we’re done at this stage is one of the great danger zones of mentoring. Instead, we need to do what Jesus did. Send them off so they can come back for Step 6.

6. Give Them Feedback

Jesus sent off the 72 in pairs (we’ll look at the importance of partnering in a future post), but he didn’t leave them there. He had them report back, then he gave them further instruction on how to do it better the next time. (Luke 10)

Here’s a small example.

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August 26, 2015 at 11:01 AM

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